Hello and welcome! Making Time for What Matters (MTWFM) is for people wanting to live a fulfilling life of meaning, success, and purpose — without the noise and the hype. What is a successful, meaningful life? Some call it intentional living, some call it happiness, some call it fulfillment. It’s about making conscious choices to live according to our values and beliefs. It’s about identifying, developing, and meeting our personal as well as career goals, achieving our aspirations.
We believe that—
- you can achieve your true dreams and aspirations,
- success is defined by the integrity and fulfillment in our lives,
- an active, connected life of on-going curiosity and learning leads to well-being and achievement,
- and while we can’t control everything in our lives, we do have agency in our life in how we respond. (Or as Mick Jagger says, “We can’t always get what we want, but if we try sometimes, we just might find, we get what we need.”)
At MTFWM You Will Find
- Do you want to achieve something meaningful in your life?
- Do you want to live with integrity, a life aligned to your personal values?
- Do you ever find yourself exhausted at the end of the day but don’t feel like you actually accomplished anything?
- Do you ever feel you are adrift, asking yourself if your efforts are worth it?
- Do you ever feel you are a disappointment to others — and to yourself?
Of course, you do. We all do at times.
I’m here to tell you that’s okay. It’s okay to want something different. It’s okay to pursue a life that matches your own values, a life of integrity and authenticity. I’m also here to tell you —
- You can achieve your dreams of a meaningful, successful life and
- you should start now.
Don’t let people tell you should do something “practical” or “commercial” or “useful” or “productive” with your time and your life.
And no matter where you are in your lifetime, it’s not too late — or too early — to pursue your dreams, aspirations, and goals. You simply need to know what they truly are and prioritize your time and actions effectively.
That’s where Making Time For What Matters comes in.
The Story: Two Lists and a Vision Board
In 2014 I was clearing out, cleaning out, and downsizing after several years where I felt shipwrecked from one storm after another. And while I wasn’t sure what was next, I felt like I’d gotten my hands back on the rudder and could guide myself to a safe harbor — once I figured out where I was going!
On the door of my bedroom was a giant Post-It listing my various goals for the past year in areas such as health, finances, career, and personal development. I hadn’t looked closely at the list for months. I’d forgotten what I’d written. But reading the list over before tossing it I was astounded to discover I’d accomplished most of the goals, and the ones I hadn’t achieved were ones where I’d changed my goal. Apparently, my eyes and mind had absorbed the goals as I passed the list each day, even without my consciously reading them.
On the wall by my desk, I’d hung a vision board I’d created three years before, and as I took it down later that day, I realized I’d accomplished or clarified all of the aspects of my life represented in the collage. I was even heading to Europe as soon as I put the house on the market! A dream deferred since college.
The final whack upside the head by the universe was coming across a list I’d made in my 20’s of all the things I wanted to accomplish in my life. Learning to juggle? Check. Write and publish a book? Check. Be a professional performer? Check. Study at Oxford? That’s where I was heading next! In fact, over 80% of the list could be checked off! Many of the remaining items were things I no longer valued. A few things were no longer possible because the world — and I — had changed.
My mother died at forty-two of a heart attack. She had two dreams throughout her entire life — graduate from college and visit Britain. She died three months before receiving her bachelor’s degree and starting law school. The University of South Florida granted her degree posthumously based on the draft of her dissertation I supplied and the recommendations of her professors. She died knowing she would be graduating. But she never saw Britain. It was always going to happen later — after my father’s business was established and she was no longer needed in the office, after I graduated high school, after she graduated college, after she got out of law school, after…
On that list of things I wanted to do in my life that I’d written in my 20’s was “study at Oxford” and “punting in Oxford.” As I floated down the Cherwell with a friend giving me my first punting lesson, I mentally crossed both off my list.
I’m now working on those remaining items. Starting with Making Time for What Matters and my new art career.
Please join me.
“You may ask yourself, well, how did I get here?
Letting the days go by, let the water hold me down
Letting the days go by, water flowing underground”
— “Once in a Lifetime” by Talking Heads (1981)
(Yes, “Once In a Lifetime” by Talking Heads was a cutting-edge video when released in 1981. And, yes, I’m old enough to have watched it on the fledgling MTV.)